Set Boundary..!

Life often resembles bleak, never ending treadmill. Mechanically it moves from morning to evening then to fall exhausted into a trance-like sleep, only to awaken next morning to the menacing prospect of repeating the pattern.

Meanwhile we do need to handle most difficult situtaions.Among them some people seems to be so impossible that they are enough to create life miserable..No matter what we do when dealing with negative people or how many techniques we use in dealing with them, it seems we often end up having to set boundaries. In relationships, not only do we have to spend time together and cultivate closeness. But we also have to create distance too.


This is where boundaries come in. If someone is going negative on you a lot, chances are good that you're spending too much time together or that person has too high of expectations from you. What's needed is more space, at least emotionally.

I had a relative that would call me on the phone a lot and the conversation always ended up being negative. She'd gossip about other family members and criticize them. I always felt gloomy afterwards. So I started cutting the call duration by saying some excuses. BUut I'd call her once in a while, so as to not offend her, Sure enough, the phone calls decreased. Now we communicate mostly by email and it's so much more positive, both for her and for me.

This is a way to gently set boundaries. In some situations you might need to be more extreme. Especially if the person is hyper-critical of your goals or things you care about most deeply. But don't hesitate to back away from these people and instead fill your life with people who support you and have a possitive influvence on you. So set boundaries in your relationship on time if needed which will help you to navigate the various relationships and interactions in your daily life.

Good luck..!!